I think an assertive Hello, how are you?" (to him) gives off the "I own this space not you" vibe. Then the "Just waiting on my cop husband with his police buddies to arrive..." Thanks for coming over but I need to call him right now....If you give me your card I will check with my single girlfriends"

Just trying to be creative. Getting to know the bartender upfront. He/She can also be your best friend, if they just won't go away.

I am sorry he was mean to you.